Girl I like avoiding me

H says:

Recently, I get to know a girl whom I like. It was love at first sight when my friend introduced her to me. Coincidentally she just broke up with her boyfriend and got hurt pretty badly. So, I take the opportunity and the result blossom. We went to movies together alone and she even kissed me on my cheek when i send her
home.

Things got on smoothly until last week when I called her out for movie. At that time she was having dinner with some of her close friends nearby, so I go over to join her. She introduced all her friends to me one by one, and things started to turn haywire when i was greeted by a familiar face.

A plum girl with a big black mole below her lips with a few hair sticking out of it. I as like WTF because this is the girl I rejected back when i was in college. She used to send me love letter and stalk me until finally i rejected her and make fun and humiliated her in front of many people leaving her crying. That's the last time
I saw her because I heard rumors she transferred to another college due to unknown reason.

So, at that brief moment I acted don't know her and surprisingly she also acted dont know me as well. So, I thought everything will go on fine. I then went for movie with my girl and sent her home. She was happy and all...

Then, many days passed and I feel she started avoiding me. When I sms her, she will seldom reply unlike last time. And the answer in sms if she reply also is very short. I ask her out for dinner and such, she will mostly reject unlike last time. So, I decided to ask her out to find out the truth. Finally, I get to know from her that the fat friend of her talk a lot of false gossip about me.

She said I was a playboy and cheated on many girls and other bullshit which were not true. I tried to explain but to no avail b'cos she know me only less than a month but she trusted her a lot because they're friends for more than 10 years.

Whenever I gave reason and explain she will smile and ask me dont pretend anymore until I finally lose my cool and scolded her for being so stupid. She told me she don't want to get cheated and hurt anymore like her past relationship. That's the last word we spoke and she didnt want me to send her back, but instead called another friend to pick her from the spot.

Until now, I dont know she change her hp number or what, because all my sms and call has been ignored. Her facebook also blocked me. Maybe this is karma b'cos i humiliated the fat girl and she now come back with such revenge. Is there any advise o turn the table around again? This ain't troll topic like last time and I really need good advise to get back with her.

B@rt says:
ok lets get a few things straight here.

1) you humiliated her friend in front of ppl and now her friend is hell bent on getting back at you
2) she trusts her friend more than you
3) she doesn't trust you
4) she has good feeling for you but she won't take it any further because of her past experience with her ex.

These are the issues that you need to address either by actions or by words in order for her to even consider giving you a chance.

Start by talking to another of her girl friends, one that you know do not like the fat friend (pls forgive me for using this term as I don't know how else to call her seeing as that is the only description given by the author of this thread) who is ur close friend or a close/girl friend of one of your guy friends. Gain her sympathy by telling her your side of the story on how she was stalking you and you didn't mean to hurt and embarrass the fat friend on purpose but I'm sure you know how it feels like for a guy to sei chin lan ta (ie don't want to give up courting you no matter what). Convince this friend to talk to the girl you like but in no way mention that you asked her to. This will plant a seed of doubt in the girl. This will help us address point number 2 above.

Call her up and say that you know why she is acting this way and ask her to hear u out. Say "I know you know the whole story from her perspective but at least give me a chance to tell you what happened from where I was standing". She will listen to you now that the other girl friend had given your side of the story to her. Tell her your side of the story (making sure that you do not in any way blame, insult, degrade her fat friend). After telling her your side of the story there will be an uncomfortable silence in which u must say "I know you trust (insert fat friend's name) but because she liked me so much last time and was hurt that I rejected her advances (cos I had no feelings for her) that now she doesn't want us to be together. Pls give me a chance to prove what kind of man I am and judge me YOURSELF and not what you heard from somebody else." She will then say "let me think about it" in which you will say "Thank you for understanding. The reason why I'm doing all this is because I felt a connection between us when we were together/going out and I don't want to regret not pursuing it to see if we were actually meant to be." By saying the last line you will be also be addressing point 4 as well as point 2 above. She will say ok then say bye bye.

If you are highly influential with the friend who helped u earlier you could ask her to talk to the girl to see what she is feeling. That would help tremendously.

If not u will have to pray that you were convincing enough to warrant her giving you a second chance. Now u will have to take things a bit slow and be patient. When the weekend nears you call her and tell her that your brother/friend gave you tickets to a movie/play/concert (one that she likes which will make it harder for her to say no). If possible go out with the friend and another guy friend (hopefully she is your friend's gf. If not you ask her whether she wants to go, no strings attached just hanging out. If she goes you will need to be casual, ie take her for a simple dinner and the movie/concert/play. This is on u to charm her with your gentleman demeanor but keep it friendly and don't pressure her. Be more of friends (ie no touching or hinting or whatever). At the end of the night send her home, say u had a good time and say goodbye without turning back (let her watch you leave). This will address point no 3.

From here on slowly build the trust and friendship with the occasional hinting. Watch for her hints.

That's all from me. Good luck

P.S: There is nothing you can do about point 1. The fat friend hates you no matter what you do so don't try make things better with her cos u will only make things worse.