A says:B@rt says:
Background
I am 29 this year and haven't have any GF before. In my teens, I am told to
establish a career first before love. I don't drink, smoke, nor gamble.
Naturally, I'm of a more reserved character.
She's 24 this year, single, working in the same department. She's living
with her parents and her only brother always drives her back from work, she
usually waits for an hour before her brother arrives. We end at 6pm but usually
work until 7-8pm at night. I'll put her as 'HM' for this thread.
Ok, so what happened so far?
Pre 02/06/09 - Nothing much. I have been working with this company for 2
years & she's been around for 9 months. Maybe as time goes by, I started
noticing her character/personality that's like a perfect combination.
02/06/09 - We were having lunch and a new colleague is asking about
everyone. The new girl asks HM and I heard HM said she has a BF. Instantly, I
mean instantly, the plate of rice straight away not taste liao. - Later luckily,
I found out I misinterpreted because I'm a banana. She's still single. From my
lunch time reaction, I know I'm fallen for this girl and I should not let any
chance goes by. I know I have to confess but I don't know what to do/how to
express it. - While she is waiting for her brother to pick her up after work, I
mustered just enough courage to ask her "what she thinks of me" and "if she's
wants to go out makan and watch movies with me". Her answer was "I think of you
like just a normal person" and "When I reach home I'm thinking of rest". - That
night, like the nights these days, I hardly can close my eyes without her on my
mind.
03/06/09 - She's rushing some works because the next day is her off day.
She was talking very cheerfully and candidly to our one of our supplier's staff.
And all the time I was next to her and don't even know how to break the ice. - I
envy that guy on the other side of the phone.- Before going off, I saw her
brother sleeping in the car waiting for her to finish her work. She's quite hard
on her brother (you know how siblings are) so I sms'ed her that she has a good
brother, waiting to pick her up everyday from work.
04/06/09 - HM is off today. Before I set off today to work, I made up my
mind to call her and ask her out for a movie after work. My fingers were
trembling and I don't know how I found the courage again to press the call
button. She didn't answer but text back. I sms-ed her and she said "she got a
date already".
I'm lost on how to proceed.
ok a lot of ppl would tell u that u need to be her friend first and be able to talk without reservation before you start hinting (ur hints suck btw just to be honest but that comes with experience). I totally agree with them. Some of you may have read some of my post and I always give direct instructions (or some of my friends and gf like to call "se kiu". My se kiu for u is:
Try to get your boss to group you and her together on a project. Appoint yourself the "unofficial leader" of this project and divide out the work evenly (so that it is not unfair) but try to give her the harder part. When she starts to struggle help her with advice (schedule meetings and lunch meetings) and sit in close proximity to her to explain how it should be done. While sitting in close proximity pls make sure you are decently dressed, hair washed, breath fresh, use cologne and talk in a soft but manly way. If she does not back away brush ur hand on hers in an "accidental" way like as if u r reaching for a pen.
Later when the project is edging closer to the deadline try to stay back after work to complete your part of the work which will make her feel guilty not working as hard as you and she will stay back as well to work. When she does that offer take away dinner and eat dinner together (chit chat not eat and do work) (try creating romantic atmosphere by not turning on all the lights (save electricity mah)). Also offer to send her home and chit chat in the car. When u sampai her house see if she pauses before leaving the car. If she bolts then you know the night failed but if she lingers hehehe...
At the end of the project when ur boss congratulates you, pls say in front of her and the boss that both of you worked equally hard on this project. After that pls ask her out to go ice skating and dinner. If she says "oh but i dunno how to ice skate wor" u say "I'm reasonably good so i can teach u". If she says "ok" u ask her if she knows how to ice skate and if she says "yes" u say "ahh ok I'm not very good so hope u can teach me" (u must fake not knowing how to skate).
At the ice skating ring (or is it rink?) if she doesn't know how to skate you must let her go first and u go for a few rounds around the ring. The when u see her struggling to balance herself go over and offer your HAND. And then u hold both her hands and bawa her jalan. If she falls laugh with her, if somebody bumps into her say outloud to the fella to watch where he is going.
If you are the one who don't know how to skate do the opposite above.
Good luck!
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