Gals where to find? How to make friends with them?

V says:

i'm not looking for a gf just wanna make frens with gals but i don know how.......

1st) well if i don have much money can i go after gals??
2nd) how to get to know a gal?
3rd) wht should i do when i go out with a gal??? movie + dinner?
4th) i don speak much wht can i do? i even bad in telling jokes
5th) i'm not a good looking person wht should i do??
6th) i cant go out late have 2 back b4 12am
7th) i don know how 2 drink n smoke should i learn this things??
8th) i never been 2 clubbing cos.. i cant go out late.......

pls help me out.. i think i'm left over.......

B@rt says:

Ok Vincent first things first your situation is not a hopeless case as you seem to project in your post. Believe it or not there are many guys out there who do not have/do the things you listed above. But somehow or rather they still manage to get girls. OMG How is this possible you say. Well another truth that I am going to lay on you is this. There are many girls like what you described above! OMG ITS TRUE!

Now that we know this we need to realise that ppl look for partners who share similarities/compatible with themselves. Rich ppl go after rich ppl. Good looking ppl go after good looking ppl. Fat ppl go after fat ppl. So... what this translates is that you should also look for someone who share similarities with you. Now if you tell me "but... but... I want a hot chick with F cup and have a RM 1b trust in her name" then I will sau kung now. But if you say "No lah i'm not that superficial" then here is what you do.

OK. I believe any guy would have their own set of friends from secondary school (we call em hing tais) and what we normally do when we are with our hing tais is we yum cha at the mamak stall. Now what you need to do is to organise a yum cha session with your hing tai but also invite the girls from your secondary school on the pretense of a reunion. This will be the icebreaker cos you can't suddenly call up girls out of the blue (unless you look like Edisen Chen). OK so I should mention at this point why we are targetting his secondary school girls. The reason is because the girls from his secondary school already know the kind of person he is and it is easier for him to talk to a girl that already knows him as a friend/ex-classmate. Also another reason why we are doing this yum cha session besides the ice breaking bit is because Vincent will be in the company of friends which helps put him at ease somewhat.

OK so there you are at the yum cha session (pls dress smartly. I cannot repeat this enough. Its the clothes that make the guy. This is very true). Try sitting yourself at the edge of your group of friends (ie leaving one chair open on the left or right) thus increasing the possibility of a ex-female classmate sitting next to you. When the girl parks her butt just wave and say a friendly helo. If you can see yourself going out with her and that she is compatible with you then stay seated if she's too hot/too ugly/too tomboyish for you then go toilet or walk around and ask one of your friends to take ur spot and talk to her to make it seem like you didn't change your seating position on purpose. Ok assuming this girl is acceptable during the course of the yum cha session occasionally talk to her about common interest stuff like "hey did you hear about our ex-classmate? She's married adi leh" and she will say "omg really???" and say "yalah when is your turn?" and she will either say "nolah no BF yet" (YESSS!!!) or "ooh my bf not yet propose yet" (NOOO). Depending on the answer feel free to use the tactic to change seating position mentioned above. in the event of YESSS, talk to her some more but keep it light. At the end of the yum cha session DON'T ask for her number. Rather ask a more popular friend to suggest that everybody exchanges MSN or better yet exchange facebook or twitter or whatever u young ppl are using these days.

Fast forward a week later. Add her on facebook/MSN. A week's period is given because u don't want to appear desperate or someone who has no life who goes home straight to the computer to add her to look at her pictures on Facebook. Next time you and your hing tais yum cha ask your hing tais to also ask ex-female classmates who are closer to your group of friends (or if you already have females in your normal yumcha sessions even better) to join. Message the girl and say "hey we're meeting up again but this time smaller group lah you want to come and join?" immediately throw out a few names (pls mix guys and girls names). She will either say "No I'm busy lah next time" or say "Yes ok". If you're feeling daring and that you have a good feeling that she has a good feeling about you, you should offer to pick her up from her house to the mamak stall and then send her back later at 12 (say you don't like to stay out too late cos you don't want your overprotective parents to worry). Invite her to a couple more yum cha sessions and when you feel confident one night when you're sending her home mention this amazing movie that is coming out (eg Lord of the rings 4: the Return of B@rt) ask her if she would like to go watch a movie and have dinner together. If she says yes you're in. If she says no but gives a good excuse say "no problem next time then" and remember to ask again next time. If she says No and gives some lame excuse then time to look for new target.

Good luck